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Should You Have a STEN Party and How Does it Work?

Should You Have a STEN Party and How Does it Work?

Hen Party   /   Mar 5th, 2019   /   0 COMMENTS   /  A+ | a-
A growing number of couples are opting for something a little different to the traditional stag and hen do.  Known as a STEN party, it is a joint stag and hen do that combines time together and time apart over a weekend for a truly modern pre-wedding party.
 

Why have a STEN party?


The fact is, many couples live together before they get married and spend a longertime as a couple before the big day.  This means the whole ‘last night of freedom’ is somewhat outdated.  Single life is far behind them, they are simply moving to a new part of their relationship.  That’s why a STEN do can be an ideal option – spending time with friends, together and also doing some stuff apart.
Another reason is pretty practical.  With busy lives, most couples will have shared hobbies or interests so a hen party and a stag do could end up doing the same things.  So combining them makes for more fun and also can reduce costs a bit. Many couples also have a large group of mutual friends and this means everyone gets to go out together.

 

Planning a STEN party


There are two main approaches to the STEN party.  One is to have the whole time together and do activities, visit locations or even all go to for a meal together.  The other is to have some of the weekendswith each other and someapart.
For example, maybe you all go on an outdoor adventure trip during the day if you are all outdoor fans. A shared activity shared with friends. Then on a night, maybe the ladies want to have a buff butler serving them cocktails while they relax at home while the guys want to go to the local casino.  Then the second night, everyone could go for a meal at a favourite restaurant or rent a venue for a proper party.

 

Dos and don’ts 


If you are thinking about having a joint hen and stag do, there are a few dos and don’ts to consider before committing.


Do

  • Do it for the right reasons and not that you don’t trust your spouse-to-be – STEN parties are to celebrate, not to keep an eye on someone
  • Do make sure you are both on board with the idea
  • Do plan it comprehensively and make sure you consider all of your friends and family who will be attending
  • Do think about people like the maid of honour or best man – will they upset that they can’t plan the party?  Or can you involve them?

Don’t

  • Don’t dive straight into the idea of a STEN party and consider the benefits of traditional separate events first
  • Don’t have an unfair balance in numbers so one half of the party massively outnumbers the other as this can make for an uncomfortable night
  • Don’t ignore group dynamics – if a few friends have split with a partnerbut you each want both to be there, a separate do might bethe best bet
A STEN party isn’t for everyone but for some couples, it is a great way to celebrate their change of status in a modern and fun way.
 
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Hanna B

Martyn was excellent. Really fun, helpful and great at pouring drinks! Nice bum too haha!

Stephanie

Oliver was brilliant at our hen party! He had a great variety of games and really got everyone going. Thanks Butler Bookings for a quick and easy booking process and providing brilliant entertainment for our evening.

Rebecca H

Brilliant- to be honest, I had no idea what to expect but our Butler was great, he provided lots of games and fun as well as being very efficient at making many drinks for all of our bride tribe! He was charismatic and rather nice on the eye too! Having our butler in the buff was one of the highlights of the hen party and I would highly recommend!

Anonymous

Both Butlers were fit and perfect for the role as Butlers for a Hen's do!

Anonymous

Keiran was great. So much fun. Took the pressure off me which was great. The bride to be loved it. Would recommend and thank you again

Tammy

Cannot recommend them enough! Our butler John was the favourite part of the hen do! We had such a laugh playing all the games and he really did get the party going! From start to finish we didn’t stop laughing, was a great night with him! Thank you John!

Cherise R

Great fun, they really got the party started!

Lauren H

Amazing service from initial booking right through to the event!! The lads arrived in plenty of time and did a fab job of entertaining 10 rowdy hens!!! They were great fun whilst remaining very professional and putting us all at ease!! The games were brilliant too and had us all in fits of laughter xxx

Alana S

Just want to say a massive thanks to Adam and James who really made my hen party in Newcastle!!! All of my Hen’s had a great time ... and we are keeping a few of the videos under wraps 😂!! You guys done great keeping all 25 of us entertained.... every hen needs a butler in the buff! 🥳

Karina

Had a great time with our butler Liam, he was very funny and we were all laughing from start to finish. Thanks for making our bride to be happy! Love Gemma’s hen do crew.

Jackie D

Highly highly recommend. Very attentive, kept our glasses topped up. Had some hilarious games to get the party started. You would not be disappointed if you booked these guys. All my hens thought they were great lads, easy going and very easy on the eye 😋 xx

Anonymous

A great night! All of the girls had a ball! John was friendly, funny and entertaining. Lots of great games and laughs. Service was easy to use and communication was excellent. John was on time and made sure that the evening ran smoothly. Fantastic!

Danielle F

Our butler Conor was fantastic last night he really helped to break the ice at my friends hen party! Would highly recommend him to anyone wanting a butler for future events.

Sarah A

James provided excellent entertainment for our girls night in. He catered for all our hens and the bride to be had a fantastic night! He planned games which really got the night going. Thank you 😊

Nicola

So much fun!! Our lovely Butler was fab, so nice and got the laughs flowing with his games. Our beautiful bride to be thoroughly enjoyed this surprise. Thank you! X

Allana

OMG! I can not tell you how much fun we had with Grev for the 2hours we booked, Would highly recommed this company

Lauren

Dave was amazing kept us entertained, such a lovely man would definitely recommend

Lara

Mark and Del were good fun and very pleasant

Jan

Great night boys were really chatty and joined in with the party.. really made the night..they kept the womens glasses topped up all night

Simone

Dan was lovely and we had such a good time! Would definitely recommend

Donna J

Thank you Butler Bookings, Andy & Liam really made our 34 strong hen party get off to a flying start with their games & the games we had planned. We were all so impressed with their professionalism & how friendly & confident they both were from start to finish. Once again Thank you. Would most definitely recommend you both.

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