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Should You Have a STEN Party and How Does it Work?

Should You Have a STEN Party and How Does it Work?

Hen Party   /   Mar 5th, 2019   /   0 COMMENTS   /  A+ | a-
A growing number of couples are opting for something a little different to the traditional stag and hen do.  Known as a STEN party, it is a joint stag and hen do that combines time together and time apart over a weekend for a truly modern pre-wedding party.
 

Why have a STEN party?


The fact is, many couples live together before they get married and spend a longertime as a couple before the big day.  This means the whole ‘last night of freedom’ is somewhat outdated.  Single life is far behind them, they are simply moving to a new part of their relationship.  That’s why a STEN do can be an ideal option – spending time with friends, together and also doing some stuff apart.
Another reason is pretty practical.  With busy lives, most couples will have shared hobbies or interests so a hen party and a stag do could end up doing the same things.  So combining them makes for more fun and also can reduce costs a bit. Many couples also have a large group of mutual friends and this means everyone gets to go out together.

 

Planning a STEN party


There are two main approaches to the STEN party.  One is to have the whole time together and do activities, visit locations or even all go to for a meal together.  The other is to have some of the weekendswith each other and someapart.
For example, maybe you all go on an outdoor adventure trip during the day if you are all outdoor fans. A shared activity shared with friends. Then on a night, maybe the ladies want to have a buff butler serving them cocktails while they relax at home while the guys want to go to the local casino.  Then the second night, everyone could go for a meal at a favourite restaurant or rent a venue for a proper party.

 

Dos and don’ts 


If you are thinking about having a joint hen and stag do, there are a few dos and don’ts to consider before committing.


Do

  • Do it for the right reasons and not that you don’t trust your spouse-to-be – STEN parties are to celebrate, not to keep an eye on someone
  • Do make sure you are both on board with the idea
  • Do plan it comprehensively and make sure you consider all of your friends and family who will be attending
  • Do think about people like the maid of honour or best man – will they upset that they can’t plan the party?  Or can you involve them?

Don’t

  • Don’t dive straight into the idea of a STEN party and consider the benefits of traditional separate events first
  • Don’t have an unfair balance in numbers so one half of the party massively outnumbers the other as this can make for an uncomfortable night
  • Don’t ignore group dynamics – if a few friends have split with a partnerbut you each want both to be there, a separate do might bethe best bet
A STEN party isn’t for everyone but for some couples, it is a great way to celebrate their change of status in a modern and fun way.
 
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Liam, our Butler was so lovely. We didn’t want it to be too cringe and he was perfect! We had so much fun playing all the games and laughed a lot. The bride to be loved it

Chris

Dealing with a wide age range 25 - 85 everyone felt it was appropriate fun and great day, thanks to Zac and Lee

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The whole booking process was easy and Jake our Butler was perfect; fun, smart, managed our group effortlessly (not easy as we’ve always got something to say) and obviously very easy on the eye! Started our birthday girl’s celebrations perfectly, thank you.

Amy

We had Andy as our butler last night and I just wanted to email to say how amazing he was! The bride to be was mortified when he first walked in but within minutes she loved him. He had everyone laughing the whole 3 hours and no one had an empty glass at all. The games were funny and sometimes a bit naughty but Andy so was respectful throughout. Everyone has commented on what a fantastic night they had so please pass on our thanks to him

Anonymous

Our butler in the buff was funny, entertaining and he encouraged great games. He hosted well and got everyone in our group involved. Our ‘hen’ loved her ButlerBookings surprise, Olly was the perfect addition to our night! Thanks!!

Shehla

Tom was absolutely amazing, well spoken, funny, very personable and fit. He was likes by everyone and was very professional. Would recommend him to all. Thank you Tom for a great evening you were brilliant.

Tammy W

Hi there the butlers were fantastic. Really made it a fun start to our night out. Connor was on time and the other one was 20 minutes late but it wasn't a problem. Both very good. Thank you

Rachel B

If we could give a 6 we would have done. Thank you Liam. Just gorgeous, funny and a great Ass! Very accommodating to our every need. Would love to book him again!

Jill A

Booked a butler for a hen party and we were not disappointed! John was excellent and got everyone into the party spirit very quickly. Everyone had a fantastic time and had such a laugh. Would 100% book again and recommend butler bookings to anyone! Thank you for making the hen party one to remember!

Anonymous

Our bulters where great. Really got the party started

Maggie A

Thanks so much Lee for a great night. We were just a small group but Lee was so much fun. Good games, he encouraged us all to get involved in being naughty. The cream licking the best laugh.So relaxed and comfortable to be with. Naughty cheeky and handsome. Sians hen xx

Anonymous

Really great. Exactly what we were looking for for our hen. A little prep for games would have been good for us to get before but still really great. Really nice guy lots of fun 👌🏻

Anonymous

Liam completely made the whole weekend. He was charming, charismatic and really turned the party up a notch. We would recommend him to everyone

Amber

We hired a butler for a hen party. Grev our butler did not disappoint. He was fab at getting the games started and he had us laughing the whole way through. Would highly recommend Grev the whole group was impressed with his service

Anonymous

Ýour butlers were amazing. They were so well organised aand so good to look at. They came up with some brilliant games and Everyone enjoyed the Hawaiian pool party which the butlers kept us all entertained for 3 hours. Thank you so so much. Best hen party ever. We would definitely use you again. Highly recommend. Linda x

Anonymous

Absolutely loved our butler, was a bit unsure at first but he got the games going and the drink flowing!! Was without doubt my favourite bit of the entire hen weekend!! Thank u Thomas!!xx

Anna

Jonh fue muy amable y servicial y gracias a él pasamos un rato muy divertido.

Beth A

Lee was our butler who we hired for 2 hours. We were a hen party of 11 ladies and can honestly say he was immense! He was experienced and knew exactly what he was doing without being asked. He came with games to play of his own and went of to make drinks without any promting. As the host of the hen do this was so good for me as it took the pressure off me for a couple of hours. Thank you so much Lee :)

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