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Should You Have a STEN Party and How Does it Work?

Should You Have a STEN Party and How Does it Work?

Hen Party   /   Mar 5th, 2019   /   0 COMMENTS   /  A+ | a-
A growing number of couples are opting for something a little different to the traditional stag and hen do.  Known as a STEN party, it is a joint stag and hen do that combines time together and time apart over a weekend for a truly modern pre-wedding party.
 

Why have a STEN party?


The fact is, many couples live together before they get married and spend a longertime as a couple before the big day.  This means the whole ‘last night of freedom’ is somewhat outdated.  Single life is far behind them, they are simply moving to a new part of their relationship.  That’s why a STEN do can be an ideal option – spending time with friends, together and also doing some stuff apart.
Another reason is pretty practical.  With busy lives, most couples will have shared hobbies or interests so a hen party and a stag do could end up doing the same things.  So combining them makes for more fun and also can reduce costs a bit. Many couples also have a large group of mutual friends and this means everyone gets to go out together.

 

Planning a STEN party


There are two main approaches to the STEN party.  One is to have the whole time together and do activities, visit locations or even all go to for a meal together.  The other is to have some of the weekendswith each other and someapart.
For example, maybe you all go on an outdoor adventure trip during the day if you are all outdoor fans. A shared activity shared with friends. Then on a night, maybe the ladies want to have a buff butler serving them cocktails while they relax at home while the guys want to go to the local casino.  Then the second night, everyone could go for a meal at a favourite restaurant or rent a venue for a proper party.

 

Dos and don’ts 


If you are thinking about having a joint hen and stag do, there are a few dos and don’ts to consider before committing.


Do

  • Do it for the right reasons and not that you don’t trust your spouse-to-be – STEN parties are to celebrate, not to keep an eye on someone
  • Do make sure you are both on board with the idea
  • Do plan it comprehensively and make sure you consider all of your friends and family who will be attending
  • Do think about people like the maid of honour or best man – will they upset that they can’t plan the party?  Or can you involve them?

Don’t

  • Don’t dive straight into the idea of a STEN party and consider the benefits of traditional separate events first
  • Don’t have an unfair balance in numbers so one half of the party massively outnumbers the other as this can make for an uncomfortable night
  • Don’t ignore group dynamics – if a few friends have split with a partnerbut you each want both to be there, a separate do might bethe best bet
A STEN party isn’t for everyone but for some couples, it is a great way to celebrate their change of status in a modern and fun way.
 
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Anonymous

Laurence was very professional and made sure everyone was at ease. He was a lot of fun and got everyone amped up for our day on the boat!

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Linzi W

Both amazing...loved the games!! We all got really drunk and had such a laugh...thank you :)

Mollie H

Amazing service, the bride loved her hen party. Thank you Mollie

Natalie

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Anonymous

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Katie

The butlers were amazing, they did not let our drinks go dry and kept everyone entertained,, didnt really know what to expect when booking but i highly recommend for a hen party the games were hilarious

Anonymous

Andy was a fantastic addition to my sister's hen party. He was easy to communicate with before hand, helped us keep the activity a secret and made our group (all at different stages in life) feel totally relaxed and comfortable throughout. I would definitely recommend using Butler Bookings!

Sophie W

Absolutely fantastic!! Chatty and friendly, got the party started and made sure everyone was included. Also incredibly hot!!

Anonymous

Tyrone could not have been more of a laugh. Exactly what you need for a hen do. Nice one!

Zoe

Absolutely brilliant! John was friendly, everyone loved him and had a great time.

Lauren H

Freddie was really good at starting the party vibes. Bride was very happy and he wasn’t forceful with anything (respectful with people that didn’t want to take part). He asked if everyone was comfortable, helped serve drinks. Very happy!

Karen S

Liam attended our hen party on Friday evening and it was a fantastic success! Liam got everyone involved (even our 81 year old nan). Everyone thoroughly enjoyed it, thanks Liam for a great night!

Rachel J

Great evening, he kept us all entertained, very sexy , he certainly put a smile on all our faces , thank you

Rebecca

We had a great time with our butler. I was a bit aprehensive to book at first as it was for my sister's hen with older family members there, but John was great at included everyone and making sure we all had fun. It was a great way to start our hen break and get all the hens mixing and having fun. Thanks John.

Anonymous

Freddie was great! He cracked on with games and made everyone chuckle

Patricia O

What an experience..john was amazing from start to finish. We didn't know what to expect but he made it brilliant and made our friend James's birthday.. The games he gave us to play were fun ... Would definitely recommend and book again. Thank you so much...

Lydia I

Really great surprise for our bride on her hen party! The butlers served us drinks and also played lots of games with us. They were both really nice and friendly and also so funny, made us all feel very comfortable and we all had so much fun!

Hannah B

Lee was fantastic and really made our night!

Steph

Our butler John was so lovely! Great games, so funny and a lovely guy! Everyone had a great time!

Anonymous

Had a lot of fun with our butler and the girls had a great time! He made loads of effort to entertain and give our bride to be a memorable night! Thanks!

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