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Should You Have a STEN Party and How Does it Work?

Should You Have a STEN Party and How Does it Work?

Hen Party   /   Mar 5th, 2019   /   0 COMMENTS   /  A+ | a-
A growing number of couples are opting for something a little different to the traditional stag and hen do.  Known as a STEN party, it is a joint stag and hen do that combines time together and time apart over a weekend for a truly modern pre-wedding party.
 

Why have a STEN party?


The fact is, many couples live together before they get married and spend a longertime as a couple before the big day.  This means the whole ‘last night of freedom’ is somewhat outdated.  Single life is far behind them, they are simply moving to a new part of their relationship.  That’s why a STEN do can be an ideal option – spending time with friends, together and also doing some stuff apart.
Another reason is pretty practical.  With busy lives, most couples will have shared hobbies or interests so a hen party and a stag do could end up doing the same things.  So combining them makes for more fun and also can reduce costs a bit. Many couples also have a large group of mutual friends and this means everyone gets to go out together.

 

Planning a STEN party


There are two main approaches to the STEN party.  One is to have the whole time together and do activities, visit locations or even all go to for a meal together.  The other is to have some of the weekendswith each other and someapart.
For example, maybe you all go on an outdoor adventure trip during the day if you are all outdoor fans. A shared activity shared with friends. Then on a night, maybe the ladies want to have a buff butler serving them cocktails while they relax at home while the guys want to go to the local casino.  Then the second night, everyone could go for a meal at a favourite restaurant or rent a venue for a proper party.

 

Dos and don’ts 


If you are thinking about having a joint hen and stag do, there are a few dos and don’ts to consider before committing.


Do

  • Do it for the right reasons and not that you don’t trust your spouse-to-be – STEN parties are to celebrate, not to keep an eye on someone
  • Do make sure you are both on board with the idea
  • Do plan it comprehensively and make sure you consider all of your friends and family who will be attending
  • Do think about people like the maid of honour or best man – will they upset that they can’t plan the party?  Or can you involve them?

Don’t

  • Don’t dive straight into the idea of a STEN party and consider the benefits of traditional separate events first
  • Don’t have an unfair balance in numbers so one half of the party massively outnumbers the other as this can make for an uncomfortable night
  • Don’t ignore group dynamics – if a few friends have split with a partnerbut you each want both to be there, a separate do might bethe best bet
A STEN party isn’t for everyone but for some couples, it is a great way to celebrate their change of status in a modern and fun way.
 
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Laura S

Bobby was amazing and charming and really got involved with the vibe of our party. He was happy to play the games we already had planned and also had some games of his own...including his good friend frank!! 😄 we would definitely recommend Bobby to anyone!! 🥰

Bryony

Andy was brilliant made us feel at ease and made the whole afternoon so good! Only criticism I had was we booked the package with the materials and a bottle of Prosecco for the winner but we didn’t have the bottle of Prosecco so a bit gutted as there was £35 difference between the two packages but don’t feel like we got that extra bit out of it. Thanks

Ashley

Jon and Dean both did an amazing job highly recommend. Thank you again x

Syreeta B

Highly recommended, very professional and got the party starting!

Kerri M

Very good creative butler. Kept the party going and our drinks always full. Would highly recommmend!

Anne

We hired a butler for a 50th Birthday party - we were a little worried as being a little bit more mature that we would end up with a butler around the same age as our sons! We had Andy and all we can say is .... brilliant! He was the perfect host he put us all at ease and took over our gathering for the next hour. He made the start of our evening so much fun and everyone had an amazing time. So if you are considering it just go for it and let them know about what would work for your group. Amazing thank you Andy, scores on the doors 10 put of 10 for your butler duties and buff well 11 out of 10 ! Thank you

Deborah O

Great service. Tom came along prepared with games and was a good sport! Highly recommend!!!

Amy

We had an AMAZING birthday surprise for our friends 40th pamper day. BIG thanks to Grev he was brilliant made everyone feel at ease and we had an absolute ball. Would Highly recommend

Anonymous

Freddie was great last night! He was very professional and arrived on time! The bride to be had a great time and he made all the girls feel comfortable. The games were a good laugh and I would definitely recommend him and the company!

Helen C

I booked 2 butler's for a 50th Girls night to entertain a group of 8 girls. I was a little apprehensive as i booked as a surprise. Our butlers were Martin and David and they were absolutely fabulous. It was the best part of our weekend and will be remembered for a long time. They were very professional, fantastic sports and such good fun I really cannot recommend them enough. I would not hesitate in booking them again and all I can say is if you are thinking of booking them don't hesitate as you won't regret it. Thanks guys you made our night and the birthday girls night one she will never forget.

Tracy

Hi there the butlers were great they kepted all the girls entertained they were great fun .

Sandra A

Thank you George was brilliant for my daughter’s hen night last night - he judged the mood perfectly and everyone commented on what a nice guy he is - please pass on to him Sandra

Emma F

We had a butler on Saturday on Glasgow for my sister's birthday. He was great and so much fun.

Cassie

The guys were brilliant!! Had so much fun. They got the party going

Charlotte

Our butlers were on time, professional and exactly what we had hoped for. They read the room well, played some great games and were generally all-round good fun. I’d definitely recommend booking with Butler Bookings, we were very satisfied with the service that was provided.

Julie O

John was a butler and a gentleman! He made a good 30th into a great party atmosphere. Would definitely book again and highly recommend. Thanks again.

Lucy

We were very pleased with our butler, Andy. He was an excellent entertainer, arrived in good time and got everyone up and doing games...even the more prudish ones of the group! We were a hen do group of mixed ages (from 25 to 55) and Andy adapted his games perfectly! He was super organised and so it gave us bridesmaids a break from our duties so we could just join in with the fun too. Everyone loved it and we were lucky to have him! Please pass on our thanks again! Lucy

Brooke B

Booked 2 butlers for a friend's hen weekend and got treated to Freddie and Dean! Both were amazing with our group, friendly and professional. Thanks for kick starting our night!

Katie H

Absolutely excellent. I hired 2 butlers for a party of 14. They were very professional and great at entertaining. Kept the party flowing smoothly and kept everyone’s drinks topped up too. Great ideas for ice-breaker games. Would highly recommend them to anyone.

Cassie B

Very friendly, personable butlers. Easy going and full of good suggestions. Directed a group of 20 women very confidently in games. Very pleased. Many thanks :)

Anonymous

I cannot fault butler bookings, communication was great from start to finish and we had such a good laugh with the two butlers, Marc and Kieran. They played games with us and always kept everyone's drinks topped up. Thank you both so much for being awesome and making my sisters hen do one to remember!

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